But he said, “He Loved Me!”

Haven’t we all heard this one…betcha many of us have said it! About a month ago, I interviewed a sistah for my book, the words…”but he said he loved me,” came up. Granted, she had learned from the past and now associates action with this word, but many of us still don’t. I believe that many of life’s lessons can be avoided if we are informed. If you are not told, then you will experience. Why walk into “dog shit” when someone can tell you that there’s “dog shit” on the road? Hindsight is 20:20…but who is Clairvoyant? Granted, many women are “hard-headed,” and some just love, truly-madly-deeply; then the actions are faded away like "dust in the wind." My statement… like a fart in the wind-LOL. So, as much they experience, or as much as they are told…they keep repeating the same ole emotional turmoil until they learn.

I’m not standing on my high horse and making out that "I’m the know-it-all…" Gosh No! As I work on this book, and interview numerous women, I am constantly learning GREAT ADVICE. As for me, I’ve been hurt also. Back in the day…I dated this fool (I’ll call him Satan). Well, I caught Satan’s ass cheating-TWICE. The second time was the last straw. Suddenly, I turned into "Mike Tyson" and whooped-his-ass! BTW, I’m not a big woman. Cops were called…blah, blah, blah; a real Jerry Springer episode…

Anyway, back to hindsight is 20:20. As a wonderful sistah (book interviewee) told me about the word “love,” that I want to share…

It’s real easy to say, “I love you.” Love is not a word; it’s an action. If you need an example, look to your parents, grandparents and siblings. What they do for you and how they treat you, tells you how they feel. So, when you are with someone, check to make sure that the actions are matching the word. Too many times, women get catch-up in “the word.” Then they get hurt and come back crying with, "but, he said he loved me!"