Mr. Ass-Hole

Before I get started on this, I do want to say that THERE ARE GOOD MEN OUT HERE! They are just few and far between. I shall credit my wonderful, loving, supportive, caring husband, my father, my brother, my uncles, and a small group of male friends. But I shall reiterate…they are few and far between.

The reason “why” I call this blog, “Mr. Ass-hole,” is because there are too many of them out here. Too many of them are ruining positive, loving, nurturing relationships. And they are leaving women sour, hurt, upset, and angry; thereby robbing the beauty, kindness, and care from a woman. Henceforth, leaving the next guy (the Good Guy) with a bunch of…(I don't need to finish).

Please note…ASS-HOLES COVER ALL RACES!!! (Ass-holes do include women…but for this blog, I’m addressing men).

Granted, some guy is gonna say, “that’s what you picked, you choose that!” Well, let me tell you something, out here in the dating world (including personal experience), one does not include, “be an Ass-hole,” on the relationship list. Quite the contrary, Ass-holes do not present themselves as Ass-holes. They are…wolves in sheep clothing. They come across genuine, honest, faithful, and considerate. It's called "Da Hook!" How do you think nice guys get sucked in by triflin women??? They are sneaky, and seek out GOOD PEOPLE to use them for their own selfish needs. Ass-holes pretend to be nice…act at being nice, and then turn in Ass-hole later after they’ve “hooked” you in emotionally and/or sexually.

When we look at the black-on-black dating world…let’s face it, the black male quality pool is depleted. If you don’t know why…go research. Therefore, great choices are few and far between. So, the average sistah (if she’s solely into black-on-black relationships) is left picking through a barrel of bad apples, before finding a good one. ALSO, unless you have Ass-hole radar, or have been to “Psychic School,” how would you know?

Ass-hole traits (short-recap…covers ALL RACES)!!!
The following are from many women (different races) have sent to me…

1: Cheats. He’s a liar. Cheating and lying work together…generally a cheater keeps his indiscretions quiet or denies the behavior.
2: Always needs a favor/handout and doesn’t reciprocate. Needs money, place to stay, pay bills, etc.
3: Makes uncaring and offensive statements like, “you should be lucky that I would date you. All men are like this. I’m a man, what do you expect. You’re ugly, fat, etc…”
4: Selfish. He may not cheat, he may not ask for handouts or make rude statements but all he cares about is himself. Basically, he doesn’t take you out on a date, or avoids being seen with you on “prime-time" nights = Friday and Saturday. His idea of a date is coming over to watch a video and “you” ordering pizza. Note, he has plenty of cash flow to hangout on prime-time nights or travel…hmmmm (see #7).
5: Likes to take you out, far, far, away from the city. In the suburbs, or the wilderness. Basically, some back alley where the people look like they are from "The Twilight Zone."
6: Introduces you as “as friend,” or disappears for a period of time when you are at a party or club.
7: Makes frequent trips to Brazil. If you don’t know why…go research.
8: Has a bunch of kids and doesn’t take care of them.

Again…THERE ARE GOOD MEN OUT HERE. Unfortunately, there aren’t that many. Let’s keep it real. So how do we change it?

1: If you happen to come across Ass-hole…walk away.
2: Please take the time to recognize the signs before it’s too late and your deep-shit in love with Ass-hole. Therefore, YOU MUST implement #1.
3: Please let Ass-hole know that he/she is an Ass-hole.
4: Please inform others so as to protect them from Ass-hole.

Why should you do this?
1: To stop Ass-hole from influencing his crazy love all over you and leave you an emotional wreck, financially deplete, strung-out pregnant, or a single parent with a bunch of kids.
2: To make Ass-hole shitty behavior public knowledge with the goal that hopefully they will curtail or stop this harmful treatment of others.
3: By telling others, you have now committed an act of community service. Informing the public protects the innocent and the naïve.

Remember, if you don’t put a stop to bad behavior you only encourage and prolong it. Also, other men (who were once good) believe this is the way to act in order to get a woman. BELIEVE ME, I’VE HEARD SOME GUYS SAY THIS. Many guys are saying that they have to act like a “thug” to get a woman. Please, let’s stop the madness!

As for the good guy…treat him with respect. Don’t turn into an “Ass-hole-ess,” once you are not interested or have lost those loving feelings for him. Be honest, sit him down and talk to him. Even write a personal letter (hand-written) to express your thoughts BUT DO include all the positive stuff about his manner. Yeah, he’ll be upset, but at least he’s not gonna walk off saying crap like, “all women are users.” Now he becomes an Ass-hole to the next woman.

Treat him with dignity. If you didn’t want him, give the next woman the opportunity to receive his loving, supportive, caring, and honest treatment.

We got to salvage and market the few good men out here…